Stop shoulding woulding and couldn’t-ing.
How you speak to yourself determines the results.
Saying “I hope this works” gives you a way of out of your commitment.
Saying “I can” allow your mind to respond with, but I won’t. Again, the word “can” gives you a way out of the commitment to your healing.
Take can’t out of your vocabulary.
“Shoulding” aligns with taking misaligned action. Even if you know that action would benefit you; when you say your “should,” something within you is not aligned.
Get in alignment, and you won’t need to should all over yourself.
Could and Would are non-committal as well.
If you want to heal, you must commit.
Instead of saying: “I hope so,” say, “I am doing whatever is necessary for me to heal today.”
Instead of I can: I am
Instead of shoulding say:
“I wonder why I am not ready to take that action yet? I know it is good for me, yet something is out of alignment.”
The word “would” brings a barrier to your healing.
“I would if I could even though Iknow I should I can’t.”
That may be the most demoralizing sentence ever created.
Changing how you talk to yourself changes everything.
You have a subconscious mind that runs your life, holds your beliefs, and the subconscious mind CANNOT take a joke. It takes everything you say literally.
So, when you say: I sure hope so: the Subconscious interprets this as not committed.
The Subconscious is like an eight-year-old: it needs verbal directions. I am eating according to my plan. I am doing what I need to heal my food addiction.
“I am” holds the magic.
When you hear, “I am, be very careful of the words behind, “I AM.”
I am a sugar addict: NO.
I have a sugar addiction: YES.
You are not an addiction; you are not a mental illness. You may have it. You are not it. Stop saying things like that.
Instead, Use the Get a CUE Formula:
Get Conscious of how you speak to yourself and about yourself. Remember, the Subconscious runs your beliefs and habits and cannot take a joke.
Get Unapologetically committed to rewinding your words. Patience, persistence, and perseverance required.
Get Emotional about your new self-chat. Feeling yourself into what you desire provides your Subconscious with rocket fuel.
For example, I love the emotion of excitement.
I bring excitement into my self-chats.
As I am up-leveling my self-chats, I envision the feeling I had on Christmas Eve as a little girl.
I KNEW Santa came down the chimney.
I DID NOT know what he brought. Santa always made it fun! Would I be tearing off gift wrap?
Would my Barbie Dream House be there?
I channel that exciting feeling as I chant my new self-chats.