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Stop Hoping

Stop Hoping

October 10, 2019 Posted by Maureen Wielansky Mental Mindset

Stop hoping
Stop canning
Stop shoulding woulding and couldn’t-ing.

How you speak to yourself determines the results.

Saying “I hope this works” gives you a way of out of your commitment.

Stop hoping.

Saying “I can” allow your mind to respond with, but I won’t. Again, the word “can” gives you a way out of the commitment to your healing.

Stop Canning.

Take can’t out of your vocabulary.

“Shoulding” aligns with taking misaligned action. Even if you know that action would benefit you; when you say your “should,” something within you is not aligned.

Get in alignment, and you won’t need to should all over yourself.

Could and Would are non-committal as well.

If you want to heal, you must commit.

Instead of saying: “I hope so,” say, “I am doing whatever is necessary for me to heal today.”

Instead of I can: I am

Instead of shoulding say:

“I wonder why I am not ready to take that action yet? I know it is good for me, yet something is out of alignment.”

The word “would” brings a barrier to your healing.

“I would if I could even though Iknow I should I can’t.”

That may be the most demoralizing sentence ever created.

Changing how you talk to yourself changes everything.

You have a subconscious mind that runs your life, holds your beliefs, and the subconscious mind CANNOT take a joke. It takes everything you say literally.

So, when you say: I sure hope so: the Subconscious interprets this as not committed.

The Subconscious is like an eight-year-old: it needs verbal directions. I am eating according to my plan. I am doing what I need to heal my food addiction.

“I am” holds the magic.

I am_______

When you hear, “I am, be very careful of the words behind, “I AM.”

I am a sugar addict: NO.

I have a sugar addiction: YES.

You are not an addiction; you are not a mental illness. You may have it. You are not it. Stop saying things like that.

Instead, Use the Get a CUE Formula:

Get Conscious of how you speak to yourself and about yourself. Remember, the Subconscious runs your beliefs and habits and cannot take a joke.

Get Unapologetically committed to rewinding your words. Patience, persistence, and perseverance required.

Get Emotional about your new self-chat. Feeling yourself into what you desire provides your Subconscious with rocket fuel.

For example, I love the emotion of excitement.

I bring excitement into my self-chats.

As I am up-leveling my self-chats, I envision the feeling I had on Christmas Eve as a little girl.

I KNEW Santa came down the chimney.
I DID NOT know what he brought. Santa always made it fun! Would I be tearing off gift wrap?
Would my Barbie Dream House be there?

I channel that exciting feeling as I chant my new self-chats.

 

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Maureen’s journey to Cooking Healthy Academy began long before she conceived of owning a business. As she raised her children and battled her own addiction to food, Maureen learned how to silence that voice of self-criticism, fully accept her body, and give herself every opportunity to heal. From these foundational experiences, she developed a philosophy she couldn’t wait to share with others. At Cooking Healthy Academy, we believe you know how to eat; you just forgot you knew. We help you look within to discover which eating plan works best for you. Then we help you customize a lifestyle that truly honors you. Through the act of cooking within a community, you will finally be able to jump off the diet bandwagon and create an eating lifestyle that allows you to release weight while feeling satisfied and fulfilled.

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