• About
    • About CHA
    • Maureen’s Story
  • Services & Programs
  • FAQ
    • Are you having an affair with food?
    • Could You Be Addicted to Sugar?
  • Healthy Living Tips
  • Contact
  • Schedule a Free Consultation
  • Member Dashboard

Make your life better. Call me (314) 312-2317

[email protected]
Login

Login
Cooking Healthy Academy | Emotional Eating Coach Cooking Healthy Academy | Emotional Eating Coach Cooking Healthy Academy | Emotional Eating Coach Cooking Healthy Academy | Emotional Eating Coach
  • About
    • About CHA
    • Maureen’s Story
  • Services & Programs
  • FAQ
    • Are you having an affair with food?
    • Could You Be Addicted to Sugar?
  • Healthy Living Tips
  • Contact
  • Schedule a Free Consultation
  • Member Dashboard

Hypocrite Chronicles: No Boundaries for Me!

October 27, 2013 Posted by Maureen Wielansky Be Satisfied

castlewithmoatboundaries

YOU MUST HAVE BOUNDARIES BUT ME? I WAS HAD NO BOUNDARIES!

 

That is what I would tell anyone who listens:

 

You must instill healthy boundaries; yet I didn’t care enough about myself to do the same.

 

 

 

Living with no boundaries was easier because:

 

  • I am a perpetual people pleasing, conflict avoiding woman!  I would rather be mad at someone than to have someone be mad at me.

 

  • Creating boundaries and enforcing them was exhausting.

 

  • I didn’t value myself enough to have boundaries.

 

During my 2 weeks away I took another hard look at myself and once I got past the shame, I knew that I had some building to do.

 

No Boundaries was No More!

 

Like the picture above I now think of me; body, mind and soul as a beautiful castle with a moat that keeps the riff raff out!  This moat keeps me safe and protects me!

 

Since I am addicted to people pleasing I literally had to write out my boundaries.  I had to fill my moat myself because otherwise the moat would dry up.

Here are a few of my boundaries:

 

1.  No longer will I allow others opinions to influence me.  Everyone knows that I have been struggling with my business and I would listen and allow myself to be coached even though I didn’t want it.  First of all, I no longer share my struggles with everyone.  I pick very carefully.  Secondly, when I do receive unsolicited advice, I literally say thanks for sharing.  I am not in the need for coaching right now.  Yes, that may sound bitchy but I have to be bold with my boundaries.  It is time to start protecting myself as I protect my children.

 

2. I say no first.  Not let me think about it or give me 24 hours.  NO NO NO NO NO.  People may not understand and that is ok.  As long as I am respectful I am letting go of pleasing everyone else.

 

3. I let go of many people.  I realized that I would rather be friendless than full of negative people who only want from me.  I am exhausted and have nothing left to give.

 

4. I turned off my phone.  I only answer for my kids and husband.  I will call everyone else back and if I receive a sales call, I say no thank you.  No more dancing around not wanting to hurt feelings.  No thank you!

 

5. With myself: yes, I even needed to instill some self-boundaries.  I tend to go over my day and berate myself for anything that I said I deemed unacceptable.  No more.  Now I have a night time ritual where I give gratitude in one book (this keeps the gratitude energy clean).  Then I write about what I can improve on tomorrow.  If something comes up that needs an amends I commit to doing that.  If not, I just forgive myself for eating my foot.

 

Bad News: I have a lot less friends.

 

Good News: I am becoming my own best friend!

 

 

Share

About Maureen Wielansky

Maureen’s journey to Cooking Healthy Academy began long before she conceived of owning a business. As she raised her children and battled her own addiction to food, Maureen learned how to silence that voice of self-criticism, fully accept her body, and give herself every opportunity to heal. From these foundational experiences, she developed a philosophy she couldn’t wait to share with others. At Cooking Healthy Academy, we believe you know how to eat; you just forgot you knew. We help you look within to discover which eating plan works best for you. Then we help you customize a lifestyle that truly honors you. Through the act of cooking within a community, you will finally be able to jump off the diet bandwagon and create an eating lifestyle that allows you to release weight while feeling satisfied and fulfilled.

    Recent Posts

    • This work is not Meant to be My Work.
    • Willpower is for Wusses
    • Diet is NOT a Four Letter Word
    • Stop Hoping
    • Get That Crap Out of the House!

    Categories

    • Be Satisfied
    • Being Transparent
    • binge eating
    • Body Image
    • Cooking Healthy
    • Cooking healthy recipes
    • Cravings
    • Eating Plans
    • Emotional Eating
    • Feel Sexy
    • food addiction
    • Goal Setting
    • Healthy Recipes
    • Lifestyle
    • Live Sassy
    • Mental Mindset
    • mindful eating
    • Preparing for a healthy lifestyle
    • self-care
    • Uncategorized
    • Weight Loss
    • weight loss coaching saint louis missouri

    Let's get in touch

    Send me an email and I'll get back to you, as soon as possible.

    Send Message

    Proud Member

    Follow

    Find us here

    • Maureen Wielansky
    • Food Relationship Expert
    • 13321 Tree Top View Court | St. Louis, MO 63141
    • (314) 312-2317
    • maureen@cookinghealthyacademy.com

    Fresh from our blog

    • This work is not Meant to be My Work.
    • Willpower is for Wusses
    • Diet is NOT a Four Letter Word
    • Stop Hoping

    © 2023 · Cooking Healthy Academy Web Development by Sunshine Multimedia Consultants

    Prev Next